Who Do You Look Up To?

Think about that, in regards to yourself or from the eyes of your child. External role models that you don’t know personally are not meaningless – consciously, unconsciously, & subconsciously – these people have tremendous influence over your life. That is why it is critical to put one’s energies toward people who are “victors” & not “victims”. Defining precisely who is a victim and who is a victor can be a lengthy discussion in some cases, but it can also be a simple discussion too. Victors do not have to be people who have not been victimized in their past or perhaps are not going through adversity either. A couple unconventional victors are Viktor Frankl and Kobe Bryant. Frankl on the outside may appear a “victim” due to having suffered in concentration camps, but his MINDSET was that of a victor – finding meaning through his suffering, maintaining hope, and psychologically striving to overcome. Kobe was a victim in his helicopter crash, but his life embodied a “victor” mentality – never making excuses for himself, and always striving to become great. Maintaining a victor mindset is so valuable, and is strengthened by looking up to people who embodied a victor mindset in their life (if they are dead) or people who embody a victor mindset currently. So next time you encourage your children or yourself to look up to particular individuals, take note if they are a victim or a victor.